Had a blow up at Renee last night. How do I impress upon her having to ask me to change the oil is not the same as ne having to ask her for help with the laundry/dishes/etc? How I do get across that yes, the kids are difficult, but if she can AIM/cross-stitch/browser her Cel sites while the kids are being a pain her to “take a break” she can do housework, too? *sigh*
I vented my frustrations, loud-ish and angry, but it fell mostly upon deaf ears, and so I’ll need to find a new tactic. Silently doing what needs to be done to set the example doesn’t work, passive-aggressive verbal lists of what I’ve done and what I need to do every night before bed don’t work, full force anger and frustrations *REALLY* are worse, because like the others, they’re ignored.
Maybe I’ll just stop doping everything except the “man stuff” and see how long it is before she runs out of laundry, dishes, and stuff, or gets angry because I’m not doing them. No, wait, I expect that won’t work either. About the only thing that will work, I expect is – nothing. As usual, I need to accept that this is how things are, and get over it, because I’m obviously the one who has a problem, and while she’s not super-mom, she’s never the one at fault.
And, of course, I’m the one who said he was sorry – although I only apologized for blowing up – I meant what i said, I just didn’t say it very well.
Ended up sleeping on the couch last night because of (a) my cold, and (b) Jacob in the middle of the bed. This is the second time this month I’ve given up and left, rather than tried to get comfy around them.