Conflict in review

One of the things I did when I was married was pretty much let my ex have her way on things that didn’t matter. Honestly, I didn’t fight over things unless it was worth fighting for, because it wasn’t worth the emotional drain.

Now she seems to be genuinely surprised when I dig in my heels and say “No” or plainly tell her exactly how it’s going to be.

I find it funny. She probably thinks I found my spine, but in truth I no longer feel the need to lay down the smackdown if that’s what it takes to protect my interests.

Plus I know a thing or two about managing conflict now. All that leadership training I’ve had for Scouts? Yeah, Conflict management and resolution was in there. Like *REAL* conflict management.

I owe Woodbadge so much – I suppose when I get my beads I’ll pay it forward.

About Kevin Sonney

Kevin Sonney - who, contrary to popular opinion was NOT raised by wolves - grew up in central North Carolina. He fell into the technology field by accident in 1991, when he gave up the wild and crazy lifestyle of an on-air AM radio DJ to become a mundane technical support monkey. The technology industry has never really recovered from this. Kevin has worked for such names as IBM, Red Hat, webslingerZ, and Lulu Technologies (we won't mention the ones that didn't survive the experience). He currently works as a Linux Administrator for Apptio. In his spare time he rescues stray animals and plays video games with his two sons. His wife, we're sad to say, helps him get past the really hard bits. Kevin is still not very mundane, he just got better at hiding it.
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7 Responses to Conflict in review

  1. wander says:

    Let me know when you get your beads. Woodbadge was a very rewarding experience for me. I got mine in 1990. Know your Resources. One of the best lessons I ever learned.

    W

  2. alchemist says:

    Rewriting my tickets for Committee Chair now that I’m not Cubmaster anymore. gonna be cutting it close, but I’m hoping to have earned them by Blue and Gold in Feb.

    And finally got a DE that was actually a SCOUT in our COUNCIL (Eagle, Vigil, AoL, Religious Emblem, the works) instead of the usual (youknowwhatImean).

  3. wander says:

    They are few and far between. Be nice to him (all of you), give him help when he needs it and he might stick around for awhile. Most of us leave after 3 years because we have to do way too much financial stuff and way too little program stuff.

    W

  4. alchemist says:

    Yeah, I hope to keep him around for a while – he’s a good kid and I’d swear I knew his older brother or someone related to him when I was a Scout back in the day.

    He even came out to visit our special roundup on 9/22 – something no other DE we’ve had has done….

  5. wander says:

    Most Scout Executives treat a DE like You get your money in, you get your units built, you get your volunteers recruited and then you can do as much program related stuff as you want. So if you see a DE at an event it means 1 of two things. Either hes on top of everything else in his job or he’s blowing the other stuff off. If the latter is true, he won’t be around for long because he will either get fired or transferred. Every once in awhile, get together with other volunteers and take him out to dinner. You wouldn’t believe how far a gesture like that will go to making him feel a part of the district.

    W

  6. alchemist says:

    I’m betting on The former, since he just took over from the Service Area Field director. Plus I’m hoping he’s going to give us a little love since the county to the south of us gets the most district attention to date.

    I’ll see if we can get some unit leaders together and treat him to a night out. You’re right, he deserves it. Our last DE…not so much.

  7. gukacayuga says:

    It’s excellent that you got a real Scouter as DE! The people in our district like Beloved for the same reason (Eagle, Woodbadge, former camp staff of many years, AoL, Brotherhood, National Camping School….). It’s just so much better than working with “just-got-out-of-college-and-needed-a-job-and-oh-by-the-way-I’m-embarrassed-to-
    wear-the-uniform-hate-camping-don’t-like-kids-and-like-their-parents-even-
    less”.

    You could be in for a sweet three years. Enjoy!

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